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CULTIVATE A CONFIDENT CARRIAGE

CULTIVATE A CONFIDENT CARRIAGE

Act Like A King, And You Will Be Treated As One.

By Dr. Yomi Garnett

“………Is it not written in your Laws, I have said you are gods?”
John 10:34 (NIV)

It was the tradition in Ethiopia that young princes from different noble families in the realm be brought to live in the palace for a few years for instruction in royal etiquette and protocol. This seemingly constrained scope of training was in fact a thoughtfully contrived façade that concealed a more articulately-designed curriculum in the art of strategic leadership and warfare, and one in which the young princes were subtly pitted against each other for the dual purpose of honing their leadership skills and grooming potential successors to the throne. In many respects, the entire exercise was an Imperial talent hunt of sorts.

Very early in the last century, a young boy, a son of Ras Makonnen, Governor of Harar Province in South-East Ethiopia, was a member of this elite class of princes. His name was Lij Tafari Makonnen, and he was brought to live at the Imperial Court in 1906, at the age of fourteen. Right from the outset, it was patently clear that this particular prince was a cut above the rest. He carried himself with uncommon dignity, exuding a supreme confidence that was not only a rare attribute for that tender age, but which far surpassed that exhibited by the older princes. His speech was impeccable and he had (continue reading…)


CELEBRATE YOUR OWN SPARK OF INDIVIDUAL BRILLIANCE

CELEBRATE YOUR OWN SPARK OF INDIVIDUAL BRILLIANCE

By Dr. Yomi Garnett

Each of us was created to fulfill a unique purpose on this earthly plane. The divine has manifested in us in physical form to fulfill a definite purpose. Indeed, you have a unique gift or talent, and a unique way of expressing it. In other words, there is something that you can do better that anyone else in the whole world. What is more interesting, for every unique talent, and unique expression of that talent, there are also unique human needs.

In your quest for this definite purpose of yours, you must do three things:

{1} You must seek, find and acknowledge the divinity within you. The Book of Life says, “Is it not written in your law, I have said you are gods?” Prayer, Fasting and Meditation will aid you in this quest.

{2} You must identify and express your own unique talents. Every human (continue reading…)


IRRESISTIBLE

IRRESISTIBLE

Lessons In Easy Camaraderie And Infectious Congeniality

By Dr. Yomi Garnett

I met Jake Canon for the first time at a party in Manhattan. By the time Jake sauntered into the penthouse apartment of fashion magazine publisher, David Cobb, the informal party was well underway. It was a mixed gathering of New York’s Creme-de-la-Creme in show business, the catwalk, media and academia.

Jake is not your everyday, run-of-the-mill celebrity. He is not even privileged to belong to any of these elite groupings. He didn’t come from Old Money either. Furthermore, he certainly was no Adonis, not being at a stage of physical perfection that could be celebrated in any way. I was to learn later that this total lack of prepossessing physical significance was matched only by an acute difficulty to situate him in any particular stratum of New York’s multi-tiered social matrix. As it turned out, the only remarkable fact about Jake was that he was a graduate of the Harvard Business School.

But right from where I sat as the lone occupant of an alcove, I quickly realized that Jake was not quite as lackluster as he had first seemed. This is because, quite soon, he became the soul of the party, as group after group swirled and revolved around him.

A few weeks later, he surfaced at another party hosted by a Wall Street investment banker. Once more, he appeared to entrance everyone, effortlessly attracting attention to himself the way magnet attaches steel to itself. As we got talking, I deliberately studied Jake with more than casual interest, and on closer scrutiny, I was struck by the incomparable energy and confidence that he radiated. Even the most reticent individuals in the room found themselves enamored with his charming personality.

IrresistibleWhat makes Jake so irresistible is that his sense of self-worth comes from within. He does not consciously seek validation, perhaps because he is confident enough to find it in himself. That night, and over a year of truly rewarding acquaintanceship, I was to gain intimate familiarity with certain remarkable traits in Jake.

1. Jake Treats Everyone He Encounters With An Urbane Respect.

Whether interacting with someone of obvious substance, or a waiter taking his order at a restaurant, he is unfailingly polite and respectful. Jake has an understanding of the human psyche that borders on the uncanny. He knows that no matter how courteous he is to the person he’s having lunch with, his warm aura of amiability will simply dissipate into thin air if that person witnesses him behaving rudely to the waiter. Jake treats everyone with respect because he believes he’s no better than anyone else.

2. Jake Subscribes To The Platinum Rule.

The Golden Rule states that you should treat others as you would wish to be treated. That is its classic prescription. However, there is a subtle, yet more profound application of the rule. We generally assume that all people want to be treated the same way. This is a fatally flawed assumption, if only because It ignores the fact that people are motivated by vastly different things. For instance, one person could crave public recognition, while another loathes the limelight. Those who, like Jake, are truly blessed with enlightened discernment are aware of the subterranean Platinum Rule which states that you should treat others, not only as you wish to be treated, but also as they wish to be treated. Jake is a master of Social Intelligence. Because he is socially proficient at reading other people, he is skillfully capable of adjusting his entire body language just to make others feel comfortable. His index of emotional intelligence is formidable.

3. Jake Does Not Indulge In Nonsensical Dialogue.

He recognizes that, for him to make meaningful, emotional and sustainable connection with another person, he must avoid small and empty talk. He has a propensity for creating connection at such a deep level that even a short conversation leaves other people with a long-lasting impression that holds him in uncommonly high esteem.

4. Jake Focuses on People More Than Anything Else.

Jake expresses an authentic interest in those around him, and for this reason, he hardly expends much time and energy thinking about himself. This is also why, unlike the generality of people, he is not obsessed over how well others like him. It is this genuine focus on other people that makes his irresistibility seem so effortless.
I will give you an example of Jake’s extraordinary skill in focusing on people.
One day, I ran into him at a coffee shop. He was busy on his smart phone. Immediately I started talking, he quietly dropped the phone to offer exclusive focus to what I was saying. For Jake, that was not an isolated flash of courtesy. He makes it a point to focus on what someone is saying, not what his response will be, or how what they’re saying will affect him. When people tell him something about themselves, he follows up with open-ended questions to draw them out even more.

5. Jake Never Tries Too Hard.

He never, not even remotely, tries to dominate a conversation with stories of how smart he is. Yet, this is not because he is valiantly resisting the urge to brag, as, quite simply, the very thought doesn’t even occur to him. Obviously, Jake knows how unlikeable people are who try too hard to impress.

6. Jake Recognizes The Difference Between Fact And Opinion.

Jake handles controversial topics and touchy subjects with consummate grace and incomparable poise. While he does not baulk at sharing his opinions, he makes it perfectly clear that they are opinions, not facts. Whether discussing global warming, politics, or HIV/AIDS, Jake recognizes that many people who are just as intelligent as he is see things differently.

7. Jake Is Authentic.

Jake is who he is. He is predictable. No one has to unravel his agenda, for the simple reason that there is none. He knows that no one likes a fake entity. He also knows that people gravitate toward authentic individuals because they know such people can be trusted. People trust Jake.

8. Jake Has Integrity.

Jake has a high index of integrity. He walks his talk. To demonstrate his integrity every day, Jake follows through on his word. He refuses to run anyone down. He does the right thing, even when it hurts.

9. Jake Smiles

Jake naturally, and unconsciously, mirrors the body language of the person he’s talking to. During a conversation, whether formal or informal, Jake makes it a matter of unwavering policy to embellish the encounter with smiles at strategic moments. The amazing thing is that people will usually return the compliment, and feel good as a result.

10. Jake Makes An Effort To Appear Well Appointed At All Times.

Jake realizes there is a massive difference between being sartorially presentable and being a vain person. For Jake, making an effort to look his best is comparable to cleaning his house before visitors arrive. It is a sign of respect for others. However, once he has made himself presentable, he stops thinking about it.

11. Jake Always Finds Reasons To Love And Celebrate Life.

Jake is positive and passionate. He is never bored. This is because he sees life as an amazing adventure which he approaches with an infectious joy that other people want to be a part of. It would bother on the ridiculously simplistic to assume that Jake is probably always of such excellent cheer because he does not have problems to contend with. It’s just that he has the proactive ability to see problems as temporary obstacles, not fatally inescapable fate. When things go wrong, as they invariably will every once in a while, Jake reminds himself that a bad day is just one day, and he keeps the hope that his tomorrow will be infinitely better.

What lessons can we learn from Jake?

+ We easily learn that irresistible people do not have fairy godmothers hovering over their cribs.

+ We learn that such people have merely perfected certain appealing qualities and habits that anyone can adopt as their own.

+ We learn that they think about other people more than they think about themselves, making rather big packages of themselves.

+ We learn that they make other people feel liked, respected and understood.

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ABOUT THE AUTHOR

Profile PictureDr. Yomi Garnett is a physician, author, public speaker, and a world-class Ghostwriter. He is HOST of the popular Internet Radio Talk Show, DREAM THE LIFE, LIVE THE DREAM, on the VoiceAmerica Talk Radio Network, in Phoenix, Arizona. Eminently regarded as one of the world’s most accomplished Ghostwriters, Dr. Garnett is President/CEO at The Global Institute For Human Excellence, Chancellor/CEO at Royal Biographical Institute, ROBIN, and Host of The Garnett Interview- America’s First Celebrity Newsletter Interview, an Online, High Profile and Social Media-propelled Interview series. He is Author : “365 DAYS OF WISDOM: A Daily Companion For The Soul In Search of Enlightenment.
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HOW TO DRESS FOR SUCCESS

HOW TO DRESS FOR SUCCESS

The Gentleman’s Guide To An Elegant Dress Sense

“You are addressed by the way you are dressed.”

By Dr. Yomi Garnett

When you meet others for the first time, your appearance offers, in the immediacy, not only the first, but the only platform for assessing you. To be a winner, you must dress like one. To be regarded as a winner, you must dress like one. Learn the subtle art of dressing for maximal success with the minimum of investment.

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Who Looks Like A Winner?

The Success Look!
Quite often, the image you project is far more valuable than your skills, or even your track record of past achievements. As United States Senator from Massachusetts, Daniel Webster (1782-1852), aptly put it: “The world is governed more by appearances than by realities.” How true this is! You are addressed by the way you are dressed, I always say. Put quite simply, the look of success is the look of a winner. Provided you have the funds, you can purchase any of a wide selection of expensive status symbols with which you can adorn yourself to prove that you have arrived. But for a certain clean, simple look that need not tarry until your bank account is brimming with millions, there is one symbol you can acquire with the minimum of investment in common sense, money and time: The look of success!
If you want to be a winner in the market place of life, you might as well start by looking like one. Admittedly, your field of endeavor will determine, to some degree, how you would brand yourself for success. If, for instance, you were a rap music artist, a certain eccentricity in apparel and accessories would not be considered inappropriate, and might even be expected by your fans. If, on the other hand, you were an investment banker on Wall Street, and your ambition is to rise to the Penthouse Suite, then you would, not unnaturally, be well advised to invest in some white shirts and a (continue reading…)


THE SECRET OF HAPPINESS

THE SECRET OF HAPPINESS

Your Little, Golden Drops of Almond Oil

By Dr. Yomi Garnett

“To trust a man, you must know his house.”
The Caliph

THE SECRET OF HAPPINESSOnce upon a time, in the old Ottoman Empire, there lived a shoe cobbler who loved his only son so much that he wanted the boy to have only the best the world had to offer. So, one fine, wintry morning, he dispatched the young lad to the far reaches of the Empire to seek out the wisest man in the world, to learn about the secret of happiness. After a sojourn lasting sixty days, the boy, whose name was Fahd, finally arrived at the place of abode of the wisest man in the world, a distinguished-looking man called The Caliph, by all who knew him. The Caliph lived in a beautiful and well-appointed palace, high up in the mountains. Fahd found him in the Grand Ballroom of the palace amidst a plethora of activities. Against the background of a small Arabian orchestra, merchants came and went, people engaged in discreet conversations in corners, and another motley crowd converged to partake of a sumptuous banquet of the most delicious food laid out on long tables. The Caliph was obviously hosting an important event, as he was preoccupied with little snatches of animated discussion with one guest after the other. Fahd had to wait for six hours before the great man could give him the slightest attention.

Fahd: “My father has sent me to you to learn the secret of happiness.”

The Caliph: (after listening attentively for a few minutes) “I do not, regrettably, have time yet to explain the secret of happiness. However, I suggest that you take a tour of my palace and return to (continue reading…)


Your Power of Personal Magnetism

Your Power of Personal Magnetism:

The 7 Qualities of The World’s Most Charming People

By Dr. Yomi Garnett

A highly-developed charisma confers immense personal power on you, if only because, being more people-oriented, and more empathic than most, you will, on several different levels, better connect with people, allowing you to attract immense human goodwill anywhere you find youself.” – Yomi Garnett.

The word ‘charisma’ is classically defined as a compelling attractiveness or charm that can inspire devotion in other people. Put in other words, charisma is that innate quality that makes one a likable person. Although self-apologists are inclined to deprecate the pervasive influence of other people, for good, and for bad, in the affairs of man, the incontestable fact is that our fortunes are necessarily dependent on the impression we make on others. That is why it becomes compellingly necessary for us to be likable, at least to some degree.

The classic picture of a charming person is not entirely alien to our imagination.
He is poised. He is confident. When he speaks to people, he does so in a firm and measured enunciation that is delivered in a relaxed tone, and in words that are well-chosen for effective and easy amiability.
He also projects a classy but understated appearance that has the invariable propensity to fixate everyone around him. He entrances everyone, effortlessly attracting attention to himself the way magnet attaches steel to itself.
He radiates an incomparable energy and confidence that totally enamors even the most reticent individuals that come into contact with him.

His does not, however, possess incomparable charm because of what he says, or how he looks. The true essence of the charismatic energy he projects is simply a function of his entire being.
When you are engaged in dialogue with this charming fellow, you unwittingly feel yourself effortlessly inspired by, not only his ideas, but your own ideas, which inexorably bud from his place of profound emotion and infectious passion.
What does this person have that inspires so much?
What does this person have that draws others to him?
He speaks very well.
He is socially adroit.
He projects an attractive and exciting image with effortless ease.
His mystique lies in all of these.
But, he has something else.
He has charisma.
The fascinating thing about charisma is that, although it is usually difficult to say why someone has it, we all recognize it the instant we encounter it.

I have devoted consummate attention to the study of charisma.
This is my own carefully contrived definition of it.
Charisma is the ability to positively influence others by connecting with them physically, emotionally and intellectually.
Charisma is what propels people to like you.
Charisma is what motivates people to enjoy being around you, even when they possess limited knowledge of who you are.
Contrary, however, to popular refrain, one is not necessarily born with charisma.
The composite traits of charisma are, almost invariably, acquired over the course of a lifetime.

These are the seven traits of people with remarkable charisma:

1. They Carry Themselves With Uncommon Grace And Confidence.

They send out a silent message of confidence, self assurance and personal security. They look you right in the eye during dialogue. They do not slump their shoulders, rather squaring them assertively. They do not consider themselves well-dressed unless they are also wearing a smile. On the other hand, they readily paint their world with a smile at the slightest prompting.

2. They Are Compellingly Persuasive.

They find it infinitely easy to get people to subscribe to their viewpoints because they are consummately skilled in the art of distilling seemingly complex ideas into simple messages.

3. They Are Articulate Communicators.

They have an innate ability to speak well and communicate effectively, and so are able to articulate their ideas properly for easy comprehension.

4. They Are Excellent Listeners.

Although good listening skills are rarely taught and infrequently practiced, they remain a principal key to communicating well, and making others feel special. Charismatic people possess this skill (continue reading…)


How To Become An Excellent Public Speaker

How To Become An Excellent Public Speaker

By Dr. Yomi Garnett

“My own secret to effective public speaking is to consider it merely a way of sharing my thoughts, the public speech being, in real terms, only a modified form of conversation.”- Yomi Garnett

The Amazing Secret To Verbal Brilliance

Whether you are speaking publicly for the twentieth time, or whether you are doing it for the first time, for most people, it remains an exercise they approach with some trepidation and nervousness. Most people seem to think good speakers are in possession of some secret knowledge that makes them skillful in speaking. Nothing could be further from the truth. I speak, and I write for a living. This means that I’m constantly on the lecture circuit, all the year round, speaking to groups of people of very disparate backgrounds, and of every conceivable description and disposition.
Indeed, I do have a secret. It is, however, so simple as to border on the ridiculous. My secret is simply this: By a conscious act of my will, I regard each episode of public speaking as being no different from any other form of ordinary, day-to-day discourse. To put it in even simpler terms: I consider it merely a way of sharing my thoughts with other people.

Insist On Speaking Only Plain English

At any speaking engagement, anyone who is not truly communicating with his audience is merely engaging in ineffectual talk. Put in other words, the essence of the public speech is to communicate and not to impress. Make every effort to avoid the inflated word. The right word, which, more often than not, is the one with which your listeners are quite familiar, is most often a very simple word. For some inexplicable reason, most people have a tendency to throw in words that are either not in common usage, or even words that have only recently gained a certain popularity. I have just thrown in a perfect example with the uncommonly used word “inexplicable.” The word “unexplainable” would have sufficed, wouldn’t you agree? It would appear that people do this either to sound current and up-to-date, or simply to impress the audience. Unfortunately, some of these “big” words do nothing to improve our ability to communicate.
The human ego is also a factor in the tendency towards fancy language, with some speakers thinking that the bigger the words they use, the more important their subject matter and themselves appear. Try your utmost best to avoid pompous language. You will be better received and better understood if you avoid “trendy talk.”

Avoid “Empty” Words

These are also called ‘vacuous’ words, and they are words and noises that add nothing to what we are trying to say. They merely clutter up what we are trying to say, and this means they also clutter up what the audience is hearing. People use these words because they serve as ‘oral crutches,’ and can be handy when one is stalling. However, if we become dependent on them, falling back on (continue reading…)


Your Street of Divine Destiny

YOUR STREET OF DIVINE DESTINY

By Dr. Yomi Garnett

He lifted me out of the slimy pit, out of the mud and mire; he set my feet on a rock and gave me a firm place to stand.”
The Psalmist

Every season requires its own stories. In this season, the global economy is in the alarming flux of a recession, with individuals, families and nations witnessing a downturn in their fortunes.
I relate this poignant story to show that, sometimes, it’s in the depths of despair that great resourcefulness is born. Indeed, our current adversity can be the propelling motivation for the brilliant flash of inspiration that will turn our life around.

It had been an exceptionally humid day in London, but this somewhat oppressive weather soon gave way to a cool breeze as dusk settled over the city. It was the evening of the fifth day of October, 1843, and a young man stepped out of his house and into a serene neighborhood street near Regent’s Park. He tousled his brown hair with his right hand, and making a brave attempt at cheerfulness, he waved his left hand in a perfunctory greeting to a couple of elegant ladies in an equally elegant horse-drawn carriage. Charles Dickens, arguably England’s most eminent author, was on his routine evening walk. He looked profoundly distressed as his accustomed walk took him farther and farther away from the stylishly graceful ladies and fine gentlemen of his affluent neighborhood and into what the novelist himself called the black streets of London. By the time he got to the Thames River, the gas lamps that lit his way through the better neighborhoods had given way to dull light coming from the windows of tenement blocks to cast an equally dull glow on litter-strewn streets bordered by open sewers. The human traffic had also changed to the dregs of the city: street urchins, pickpockets and beggars.
Dickens’s gloom deepened as this change in human tone evoked traumatic memories of himself as a Your Street of Divine Destinytwelve- year old impoverished boy subjected to the grueling task of attaching labels to an endless stream of pots of black boot paste, for twelve hours a day, for six days in the week, to earn the six shillings that would sustain him. Meanwhile, his father languished in debtor’s jail and poor Dickens was receiving only an hour of school lessons during his lunch break. For the boy, life seemed quite bleak and hopeless, until, by an unexpected twist of fate, the elder Dickens, almost unbelievably, came into an inheritance. He paid his debts and was released (continue reading…)


Burn The Boats

BURN THE BOATS

A Masterstroke of Military Genius

By Dr. Yomi Garnett

“The Skillful Warrior leads his men into battle, like a man climbing a height and kicking away the ladder, he leads them deep into the territory of the feudal lords and releases the trigger. He burns his boats. He breaks his pots…”
– Sun-tzu, “The Art of War”

Burn the BoatsHernán Cortés, marqués del Valle de Oaxaca, was born in 1485. He was a Conquistador, Spanish for Conqueror. He overthrew the Aztec empire, and later won Mexico for the crown of Spain. He first set sail to the New World at the age of 19. King Charles I appointed him Governor of New Spain in 1522.

In the year 1519, Hernán Cortés, commanding a force of some 600 Spaniards, 16 horses and 11 boats, landed on a vast inland plateau called Mexico. He was about to embark on the conquest of an empire that was repository of one of the world’s richest treasure troves, with the greatest concentrations in one single geographical location, of Gold, Silver and pre­cious Aztec Jewels.

But, with a force of six hundred ill-trained men, who hadn’t even a stitch of protective armor on, an attempt to subjugate such a vast empire could only have been considered, even in those capriciously violent days, an adventure of the most foolhardy proportions. Of even greater military significance was the fact that, for more than 600 years, conquistadors equipped with far bigger (continue reading…)


How To Lead A Stress-Free Life

How To Lead A Stress-Free Life

By Dr. Yomi Garnett

One lesson a man learns from Harvard Business School is that an executive is only as good as his health.” –

Jeffrey Archer(1976)

How true this is! The pre-eminent health topic amongst people with executive responsibility, in both the private and public sectors of the economy, the world over, is stress!
Beyond the common-place understanding and application of the word, stress is defined as the condition or state of coming under strain or pressure. The stress you feel is your response to a strong stimulus called a stressor. Stressors are therefore the circumstances that cause your stress.
Stress has, arguably, become the single most important health issue threatening the existence of man, and Chronic stress is directly linked to the leading causes of death like strokes and heart attack. The world over, every six hours, an adult between the ages of 35 and 60 years is dropping dead from the effects of stress, making the Sudden Death Syndrome a major fall-out of stress.

1. Manage Your Anger

365 Days of Wisdom by Dr. Yomi Garnett

The first step is to, by a conscious act of your will, resolutely decide not to give in to feelings of annoyance and anger when next they rear their heads. I would be the first person to admit that this can be a Herculean task, as anger is certainly one of man’s primordial and basic instincts. Having said that, it is now acknowledged that anger is the most tragic of the human emotions, and no one can quite achieve his true potential if he has the unfortunate tendency to feel and express frequent feelings of anger. The sane option to pursue when you feel victimized is simply to refuse to allow yourself to dissipate valuable energy and thought in what is, at best, a useless and unproductive emotional indulgence, and simply let go by consciously deciding not to get angry or upset. The management of anger is, indeed, a valuable skill that has been mastered by great men and women throughout the ages.

2. Use Your Breath To Diffuse Tension

The second strategy is a close ally of the first. When next you find yourself in a potentially stressful (continue reading…)










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