“Most people are other people. Their thoughts are someone else’s opinions, their lives a mimicry, their passions a quotation.” – Oscar Wilde
Who’s in control of your life? Who’s pulling your strings?
For the majority of us, it’s other people – society, colleagues, friends, family or our religious community. We learned this way of operating when we were very young, of course. We were brainwashed. We discovered that feeling important and feeling accepted was a nice experience and so we learned to do everything we could to make other people like us. We didn’t want to be singled out by the crowd for being different because this wasn’t such a nice feeling. We learned this way of being so well that, as adults, we continue – mostly through mutual peer pressure – to keep each other in check. Like sheep without any need for a sheepdog, we keep each other in line.
The biggest roadblock that is holding most of us back from living the life we want is entirely self-created: It’s that we actually care what other people think. 
Imagine what your life would be like if you just did what you wanted to do, instead of being imprisoned by social conditioning. Imagine how much happier you’d be if you stopped doing things that other people thought were cool, and started living every moment as the full expression of who you are.
Give Yourself Permission to Be You.
The only person who is guaranteed to be by your side through thick and thin from your first breath to your last sputter is you. Be your own role model. The only person you need validation from is yourself. You’re here for a reason because you choose to have a reason to be here. If you see life as something to endure rather than to enjoy, it’s because you’re letting yourself be controlled by the world, rather than being your own force of nature.
As you work on building your network marketing business, real estate business, home based business or any other type of business, there is a tendency to often worry that family or friends might not approve of what you do or that they may be talking about you behind your back, or you might offend someone. If this sounds like you, it’s time to break free and stop paying any attention to that.
It’s human nature to want to be liked and to seek approval, but when you’re really sensitive to the point where you don’t take a stand out of fear of alienating or offending others, it’s bad for your well-being.
Watch this video below that features Warren Buffett, Jay Z and Steve Forbes. You will learn a lot about what it takes to be successful in business and in life. Enjoy!
So how can we take back control? If we are truly ready to give up the craving for approval and importance, I think there’s only one way – make a conscious decision to stop caring what other people think. Just as one of my mentors, Terry Petrovick often says, “What people think of you is none of your business”.
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October 14th, 2011 on 11:20 pm
Hi Etieno,
Successful people could care less about what others think, because they are not living others’ lives.
Whose life are you living? I ask myself this question from time to time, to stay on my course, not my parent’s course, or friend’s course, or the general public’s course. Think your own thoughts, feel your own feelings, and live your own dreams.
Jay Z, Warren Buffet and Steve Forbes did not become icons by accident. Each marched to the beat of their own drum, and kept marching right to the top.
Thanks!
Ryan
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October 16th, 2011 on 6:52 am
Yep. Successful people don’t bend to the whims of public opinion. They take decisions quickly but are slow to change their decisions. However, unsuccessful people are slow to make decisions but change their decisions fairly quickly.